Cosmopolitan (the idea not the mag)

According to Wikipedia, cosmopolitanism is defined as “the ideology that all human beings belong to a single community, based on a shared morality”. It slightly surprised me because to me, the definition has always been “a citizen of the world who feels never at home in a particular country and or or at the same time home wherever he or she is”, the way I learned it at uni in one of my Media classes. So naturally, I thought that was me. I still do, all political aspects aside, feel that there is never a home for me on this planet, yet I do not really mind where I am either because I can make myself at home wherever I am.

This is not a recent thought, but I have been feeling particularly more “cosmopolitan” these past few weeks. It seems that at mid-twenties, the only thing girls seem to be able to talk about is wedding and marriage – settling. And being first or second generation immigrants, my friends and I are sometimes discussing the possibility of moving back to South Korea. But I don’t know how anyone ever picks one country, city or even a suburb to live in for the rest of their life, let alone living in their own country. How do people find… home?

Options I have:

  1. To live in South Korea, where I am from.
  2. To live in Australia, where I am now.
  3. To live in Thailand, where I grew up.
  4. To live elsewhere.

You see, I don’t like – or rather, mind – any of these options. They’re all fine.

To consider the first three options would be so boring. I’ve lived in all those countries already. How can you choose one place for an indefinite amount of time of your life, like the rest of your life? This question pinpoints my dilemma.

I could live in South Korea, as it would be a nice place to raise my child(ren) and teach their mother tongue just until they reach their teen years. I do not want to send my child(ren) to Korean middle or high school because they are way too competitive and focused on rote learning. Thailand is not bad because they have excellent international schools, but I myself would personally like to widen my views and not go back to places where I had already been. Australia is definitely lovely – the weather, the beaches, the lifestyle… But then again I have already been here for six years and plan to stay here for at least another three years.

This leaves me with option number four, with which I find myself googling “countries easy to migrate to”. There are so many amazing places – continents I’ve never touched! – yet the problem of visa stands in my way. Why? Why!!!

Okay. From here on I am one hundred percent cosmopolitan. I wish there were no boundaries! No political boundaries! It’s not like Earth is that big, too. This world we live in is so small.

Here is an extension of thought – also not recent. Has anyone else out there felt the life that Earth has for us is extremely limited? No matter where you go, Asia, Africa, Europe… humans are bound to the same necessities of life, the same structures of society, the same body and the same life. We are all doing the same thing here. No matter how hard you try to be unique, we are left with this same old life on earth.

This idea first struck me in high school, and ever since then it’s actually put me into perspective for good. The whole agenda of stardom, power and wealth is just ridiculous. As they say, you just have to appreciate the little things in life. The little, private things in your life are like secrets – it becomes more valuable with less number of people involved.

Ahem. In conclusion, cosmoplitanism seems like a good idea to me now. (As long as I can’t migrate to a different universe.)


2 thoughts on “Cosmopolitan (the idea not the mag)”

  1. “No matter where you go, Asia, Africa, Europe… humans are bound to the same necessities of life, the same structures of society, the same body and the same life. We are all doing the same thing here.”

    I thought this was true too, till I found how explicitly different certain societies can be! The way they operate and function, can be completely polarizing, to how we govern our thoughts and actions! Different cultural values and contexts influence the way we react and perceive things! For example: In the western world babies are seen as valuable social commodities, yet for women living in poverty stricken areas such as Alto Brazil, it is not uncommon to frequently reproduce and selectively choose to keep alive which newborn will have the best chances of survival, based upon gender, health, appearance and birth order. In Alto, a poverty stricken region, the mortality rate is high, survival is difficult and death is common, thus death has become a topic that many have been desensitized to.

    Another interesting aspectwas the fact that mothers don’t immediately shower their newborn with love, whereas in the western world it is considered an innate, almost intrinsic normative that mother’s must have deep love for their newborns. There is a waiting period, as infants, like husbands are considered short term attachments, people that have strong capacities to disappointment. Infants must earn their mothers love, as they grow older and become more “human”. “mature” and “interesting.” This idea really struck me as bizarre and a complete polar opposite of the social norms that I’ve been conditioned to believe.

    “There is an absence of grieving or a profound sense of loss in each and every fragile child” and also “The day to day moral thinking is guided by a lifeboat ethics. The central ethical dilemma of the lifeboat concerns the decisions as to who among the shipwrecked is to be saved when it would spell disaster to try saving all.”


  2. Another polarizing perspective:

    Among the Nigerian Wodaabes ,a tribe in Africa , the women hold greater economic power than the men and the tribe is obsessed with objectifying and scrutinizing the beauty of the male and not the female! A female’s intelligence is considered more important than her beauty whereas the men’s beauty are essentially more vital than their economic power or intelligence. Woodabe men spend hours together in elaborate makeup sessions and compete seductively in beauty contests, judged by females who determine the ‘beauty’ of the male. 25The women have many lovers and there is a clear pattern of older women with a beautiful but expendable male youth. AS a result it can be determined that women are seen as the dominant forces in the Nigerian Woodaabe’s culture, much like men are in the western societies.


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